DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are childless. I have two young nephews whom I adore. We have offered to baby-sit whenever my brother and sister-in-law need a night out. Sadly, we have been overlooked. Instead, our sister-in-law asks her younger sister to baby-sit. I understand that my sister-in-law is very close to her sister, but I can't help feeling insulted and a little jealous.
I'm a teacher, and my husband and I have good judgment. We also live closer than her sister does. I am struggling with these feelings, and I'm not sure if I should say anything. -- NOT FIRST CHOICE IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR NOT FIRST CHOICE: Of course you should speak up. It's certainly better than fuming and harboring hurt feelings. Not knowing your sister-in-law, it's hard to say why she has been reluctant to have you baby-sit. Perhaps she has simply fallen into a routine with her sister. Better to get this out in the open than to brood.