DEAR ABBY: I don't like my 25-year-old daughter's fiance. He never went to college, works a low-paying job and doesn't know how to manage money. He floats through life and doesn't appear to have any goals. I have raised these issues with my daughter in the past, but she didn't want to hear it.
I know I can't choose her husband, and she's free to make her own choices. My problem is, I don't want to plan the wedding. Every time I think about planning it, my heart aches and my stomach sinks. There is no excitement for my daughter. What should I do? Fake it, or level with her about not wanting to be a part of this? -- ANXIOUS AND WORRIED IN THE SOUTH
DEAR ANXIOUS: Your daughter already knows how you feel about her fiance. When parents plan and/or pay for a wedding it is a gift, not a requirement. At 25, your daughter is old enough -- and should be independent enough -- to plan (and pay) for it with her fiance. It will be good practice for what lies ahead after her trip to the altar.