DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were taught differently regarding how to serve ourselves a meal. Typically, we each "plate up" a desired amount of food in the kitchen, where it is prepared, rather than bring serving dishes to the table. Then we carry our plates to the table to eat.
Should my husband serve himself first (as I was taught the cook/hostess is served last), or should I go first (as he was taught women precede men)? -- DINERS' DILEMMA
DEAR D.D.: You're not "the hostess"; you are the wife. If your husband wishes to defer to you, let him spoil you. You'll both be happier that way.
P.S. I'm sure you can find a way to spoil him back.