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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: I have been estranged from our grandchildren for nine years. One of them is now 18 and we would like to reach out and contact her, but have no idea how to do it. We don't know what caused the estrangement with her parents, but we have never stopped loving our grandchildren. How do you contact someone who isn't in the phone book, is of age and across the country? -- BONNEY JEAN IN HAWAII

DEAR BONNEY: You have written to me for so many years, I feel like I know you. My heart goes out to you in this -- I'm sorry to say -- not uncommon predicament. A way to locate your granddaughter would be to do it via a Google search. I wish you luck.