DEAR ABBY: I have seen many letters in your column from men who are conflicted about being attracted to a person other than their spouse.
I handle it by calling it "art appreciation." In a museum you can't touch the art but only admire it from a distance. I, too, enjoy the "view" without getting too close. It has served me well because it allows me to fantasize without getting into trouble. -- "MUSEUM-GOER" IN CAMPBELL, CALIF.
DEAR "MUSEUM-GOER": While this technique may work for you, I wouldn't recommend it to everyone because many wives pick up on those "art appreciation" vibes and feel disrespected or threatened when their husbands stare at other women. I remember that this subject has been raised at least once in the Bible. If King David hadn't spent so much time enjoying the view from his rooftop, Bathsheba's husband would have died a natural death.