DEAR ABBY: I work for a dentist. There are two other staff members besides me.
The dentist occasionally receives gifts (goodie baskets, flowers, baked goods, etc.) from specialists thanking him for referring patients to them. These gifts usually have cards that say "To Doctor and Staff," but he never shares any of it with us; he takes it all home. Should I approach him about this? -- NO PERKS IN INDIANA
DEAR NO PERKS: I don't think so. While your feelings are understandable, you would have nothing to gain but poundage. And besides, it's almost impossible to shame the shameless.