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by Abigail Van Buren

Teen Being Offered Sex Needs a Talk With Dad

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend is very sweet. The problem is, she wants to have sex with me. I don't think I am ready for that. I also don't know how to approach my parents about this. I really need some help -- fast! -- NOT READY IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR NOT READY: Your girlfriend may not be as interested in having sex with you as she may be in doing what she thinks you may expect from her. That's why you should have a talk with her and tell her that, at this point, you don't think you are ready. You may find she's relieved to hear it.

Because you find this subject too delicate to talk to both your parents about, I recommend you bring it up with one of them -- your father, perhaps. You don't have to start the talk by announcing that you're being pressured into sex. Instead, start out by saying there is talk around your school about the number of kids who are having sex and you'd like to talk about it. If he isn't comfortable with discussing this with you -- and I'm pretty sure that won't be the case -- then talk to a counselor at school about the fact that you need some direction.