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by Abigail Van Buren

Cousin's Wedding Invitation Brings Back Painful Past

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together for two years, and he still doesn't know my mother's last name (it's different from my maiden name), nor does he know the names of all of my siblings. He doesn't think it's a big deal. What is your opinion? -- NAME GAME IN KNOXVILLE, TENN.

DEAR NAME GAME: Either your husband is not much of a family man or he's not detail-oriented. Remembering someone's name is a sign of respect, and it appears your husband of two years has little of that for your family.