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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman Whose Dad Died Young Can't Feel the Pain of Others

DEAR ABBY: When my son and his fiancee have a fight, she comes to cry on my shoulder. She says she doesn't want to talk to her friends because she doesn't want them to dislike him. Little does she know how stressful this is for me when I get to hear all the details. How can I put a stop to this without hurting her feelings? -- TOO MUCH INFORMATION IN IOWA

DEAR TOO MUCH INFORMATION: Start by telling her how stressful it is when she comes running to you when she and your son argue. Then, explain that as much as you care about her, if she's going to marry your son, she is going to have to learn to work out her problems with him on her own. You'll be doing her a favor.