DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a wonderful man who is a widower. Our question is this: When a couple divorces, the two refer to each other as their "ex." But because his wife died, how should she be referred to? It doesn't seem right to call her his ex. -- CURIOUS IN PALM SPRINGS
DEAR CURIOUS: With anyone who does not already know that your friend is a widower, she should be referred to as "his late wife."