DEAR ABBY: Regarding the letter from "Lost in the Land of Aloha" (Sept. 1) and whether short men are considered less desirable -- height is relative. I am 5'3" and dated taller men, usually 6 feet and over, because those were the guys who just were around and seemed to be attracted to me.
Then I met my husband. He's 5 feet 6 inches and absolutely wonderful. Before me, he dated much taller women. He's kind, loving, showers me with affection, offers me understanding, is a fantastic father and a complete kid-magnet. He cooks, washes dishes, does laundry, changes diapers, and actually picks things up off the floor instead of vacuuming around them. I am the luckiest woman on this planet, and I know it.
Never pass up a short guy. They're not short -- they're fun-sized! -- VERY, VERY HAPPY WIFE IN TEXAS
DEAR WIFE: I received a tsunami of responses to my question, "Does height really matter?" And it shows there's no "shortage" of support for men like "Kal" ("Aloha's" friend) and your honey of a husband. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are both 5 feet 6 inches. In the past I was concerned that we didn't fit the stereotype of the man being taller than the woman, but it has actually worked out great. We can switch cars without having to adjust the seats and mirrors. Our lips line up exactly when we kiss. I never have to stand on my toes! On our wedding day, I wore gorgeous ballet flats. "Kal" will eventually find a woman who appreciates him for the breadth of his heart and not the length of his body. -- SEEING EYE TO EYE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR ABBY: It's all a matter of personal preference. I need to think the man I'm with will be able to protect me if need be. I don't have that feeling with a short guy. And it doesn't matter how muscular he is -- it's the height that counts in my mind. -- LIKES LOOKING UP AT THE GUY
DEAR ABBY: You bet a man being tall makes a difference. I'm an average-sized bachelor who works around many attractive women. I get plenty of flirting and interest, but every time I meet one of my co-workers' husbands, he's a tall athletic stud. That's just the way it goes. -- THE SHORT OF IT IN LONGMONT, COLO.
DEAR ABBY: This may seem shallow, but height does matter to me. I'm a tall woman, and when I date men who are shorter than I am, I feel even bigger. It makes me uncomfortable, which does not make for a good date. -- TALL DRINK OF WATER IN EUGENE, ORE.
DEAR ABBY: Aren't you aware that the vast majority of females prefer taller men? "Heightism" is a rampant and virulent prejudice. Even if a guy is an inch or two taller than the woman, he will be considered too short if he isn't taller than she is when she's wearing heels.
Women go gaga over the really tall guys. I can't count the number of times I've heard them brag about how tall their man happens to be. I have never heard a female boast, "My boyfriend's only 5 feet 6, but he really is all man." -- ROLAND IN MAINE
DEAR ABBY: Does height matter? Not a whit! I'm a 6-foot-2-inch guy. The men who catch my eye are in the 5-foot-7 to 5-foot-9-inch range, but I certainly don't draw the line. Shorter guys? Bring 'em on! (One at a time, though.) -- DON IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR ABBY: No matter how tall or short you are, the most important thing in a relationship cannot be measured: It's love. -- WISE ONE IN YUKON, OKLA.
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