DEAR ABBY: I have just learned that my husband has lung cancer. He has known for almost a year and decided to keep it to himself.
We have been separated for a while, and he lives in another town nearby. We have two children -- both in their teens. I am the only person who knows about his illness.
He has decided not to follow his doctors' advice and is using an alternative treatment. I love him dearly, and I think he should tell the kids. He refuses. Don't you think they have a right to know? Please help me! -- CARRYING A HEAVY BURDEN
DEAR CARRYING: Your children should definitely know, and the person who should give them that information is their father. People often take for granted that their time with the people they love is infinite, and your children are no exception. If their father's time is limited, they might want to spend as much of it as they can with him -- and your husband should allow them to do it. The memories they make during this precious time may be all they have of their father.