DEAR ABBY: I am getting married next month. It's a first marriage for both of us, and I love "Evan" with all my heart. I'd do anything and everything for him -- but I'm scared.
A few days ago, Evan said he wanted to move back the date of the wedding. It just about killed me. I thought maybe he didn't want to marry me, or he doesn't love me. He saw how badly I took the news and told me later that night that the wedding could go on as scheduled.
Abby, how do I know if Evan wants to marry me? What if he is doing it just so I won't be sad? I don't want him to marry me if he's not ready. Please help. -- WORRIED BRIDE-TO-BE IN OKLAHOMA
DEAR WORRIED BRIDE-TO-BE: Tell Evan that you were shaken when he told you he wanted to postpone the wedding. Then tell him that if that's how he really feels, you agree it would be a good idea to wait. If he seems relieved, you will have your answer, and be glad you found out before you married him, not after.
However, if your fiance says he still wants the wedding to go on as planned, tell him that you'll agree only if he agrees to premarital counseling. It could avert any number of problems later. Trust me.