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by Abigail Van Buren

Resentful Father Poses Threat to Mistress's Son

DEAR ABBY: I am a college student and recently I was faced with a huge decision.

I have been attending junior college for two years and am about to start my third. I applied to a four-year university, and they have accepted all my credits. I play soccer for the junior college, and I had already promised my team I would be here to play in the fall.

My problem is I am over the maximum number of credits I can transfer from one college to another. I have chosen to remain at junior college because I gave my word I would stay with the team. I don't want to regret this decision. Was it right to put the team before my academics? -- LOST IN COLLEGE

DEAR LOST IN COLLEGE: Not in my opinion. Academics trump athletics. And you should not have made any promises to your team while applying to a different school.