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by Abigail Van Buren

Sister's Generosity Is Tainted by Way She Earns Her Living

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have tried four times to have a baby. Because fertility medications cost around $5,000 here in Canada, we have depleted all of our savings and down payment for a home.

We are contemplating holding a fundraiser to offset the costs for a fifth try. Your thoughts, please. -- CONTEMPLATING IN CANADA

DEAR CONTEMPLATING: My heart goes out to you, but my gut reaction is negative. If you needed donations for treatment for a life-threatening condition, I might feel differently. I encourage you to explore other options available to you -- including adoption.