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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: I am a college student with a gender-neutral name. I often need to exchange e-mails with people who have never met me, and I am frequently assumed to be male when I am, in fact, female.

Is there a polite way to correct this in my return e-mails? Or should I not let people know they have made a mistake until they meet me in person? -- Z.W., CAMBRIDGE, MASS.

DEAR Z.W.: A sure way to let people know they have made an incorrect assumption would be to sign your return e-mail "Ms. Z.W."