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by Abigail Van Buren

Son Struggles to Accept Dad's Preference for Men

DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I are eating out, before we leave I will take home a small creamer packet for my afternoon tea. My husband says this amounts to stealing, and he finds it embarrassing. I feel that because he doesn't use cream in his coffee, I am only taking "his" cream home for my use.

I know this may seem trivial, but what say you? -- SPRINGFIELD, ILL., READER

DEAR SPRINGFIELD: The sweetener, creamer and condiments on a restaurant table are supposed to be used while in the restaurant. However, you can settle this disagreement by simply asking your server before you leave if there would be any objection to your taking a packet of creamer with you to use later. I'm positive the answer will be no -- as long as you're not taking the entire supply.