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by Abigail Van Buren

Compatible Relationships Are Built on Respect, Not Argument

DEAR ABBY: Why is it that men, no matter their ages, are jerks? I am a single mom and have been divorced for two years. I date occasionally, and when I do, I try to date good guys who could possibly become more.

Abby, I never get a second date! I am sweet and can carry on a conversation. I go out with them or cook for them. I just don't understand why they never give me a second chance. -- HURT IN ROSWELL, N.M.

DEAR HURT: Not all men are "jerks." Because you are consistently getting the same reaction from every man you date, it is time to seriously consider what you might be doing to chase them away. A good place to start would be by having a frank talk with some of your male relatives and/or platonic friends.