DEAR ABBY: I have been involved in several weddings, and something has come up we hope you can help with. Often with wedding gifts, the card becomes separated from the gift, or in the case of online retailers, they forget to enclose the sender's information in the box. How does one go about thanking people for their generous gift if you're not sure who the sender is?
What is the solution, short of calling and telling people you didn't receive something from them and asking, "What did you get us?" -- C.P. IN VAN NUYS
DEAR C.P.: To prevent cards from being separated from the wedding gifts when they arrive, they should immediately be placed inside the gift box -- and what the item is should be written on the guest list. (The date it was received would also be helpful.)
If something arrives without a card, contact the store it came from, the online vendor who sent it or the company that delivered it. If they can't provide that information, then check your master list to see whose name has a blank next to it and call the person. Sometimes packages have been known to "fall off the truck," and this is a safeguard against theft.
DEAR ABBY: Last spring I suffered a stroke. Living alone, and with my family living 2,000 miles away, I became depressed. My daughter suggested that I get a pet. I discussed it with my doctor and he agreed.
I adopted an adult dog from the Humane Society, and it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. We walk every day, my depression is beginning to wane, and I have met my neighbors.
Please encourage your readers to adopt from their local shelter. Not only will they be saving the life of an animal, but he may also wind up saving theirs. -- JAN AND KARMA IN BARSTOW, CALIF.
DEAR JAN AND KARMA: It's a well-known fact that a pet can add quality to its owner's life not only by reducing stress, but also because responsible pet ownership requires establishing a regular routine that includes a healthy dose of exercise. I'm pleased to print your letter, for exactly the reason you mentioned, for anyone who could benefit from a dose of unconditional love.
DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I have a conflict and need an objective opinion, please.
I sit in one room to read and watch TV while "John Dear" reads in another room. The phone sits right next to his chair. The phone where I sit is across the room from my recliner. John Dear says that because I get more phone calls than he does, I should always answer the phone. I say he should since it's just 6 inches away from his reach, and if it's for me, all he has to do is yell and I'll get up. Both rooms are small, and I have no trouble hearing him.
What do you think? -- DISAGREEING IN KOKOMO
DEAR DISAGREEING: Because most of the phone calls are for you, you'd be spared a lot of arguments if you'd invest in a portable phone for your room. That way the phone will be right next to you, and your husband won't be interrupted while he's trying to read. (Then you can yell at HIM if the caller asks for him.)
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