DEAR ABBY: I am the oldest of three sisters. The youngest has always been the overachiever. She graduated from high school and college early, was the first to be married, and she's having the first baby in the family.
I have demonstrated my pride in my sister by attending all her celebrations. I have sent gifts, helped to organize not only parties, but also her wedding and baby showers.
I recently announced to my mother and middle sister that I am planning to be married, assuming we would all share the excitement we did for my sister. Not only did they show a complete lack of interest in my milestone, they immediately changed the subject to my sister's baby shower. I cannot help but feel hurt by this. Is the first milestone in a family more celebrated than the others that follow? -– COMING IN SECOND IN ATLANTA
DEAR SECOND: I don't blame you for feeling slighted. It appears your sister is the "golden child" in your family. Because your mother and sibling appear hypnotized by the glare of her spotlight, you may have to find your validation outside your immediate family -– from friends and your fiance's family. I recommend you start now.