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by Abigail Van Buren

Decorum in Doctor's Office Seems to Be in Short Supply

DEAR ABBY: I want to visit my son, whom I have not seen or heard from in three years. Even though I have phoned and have written to him, I have gotten no reply. He was angry at me the last time we spoke. Should I make a surprise visit when I'm in his city? -- MOM IN THE SOUTHWEST

DEAR MOM: Unless you're willing to be the one getting the surprise, I don't recommend it.