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by Abigail Van Buren

Active Fantasy Life Does Not Mean You Are Cheating

DEAR ABBY: My co-workers and I have been talking, and we disagree on this. Is fantasizing about someone other than your partner cheating? I say no. What do you think? -- "BEAUTIFUL DREAMER," BRIDGETON, MO.

DEAR "BEAUTIFUL DREAMER": It is not unusual for people in the throes of passion -- or even walking down the street -- to take a fantasy side trip. It's not cheating and can enhance the experience.

However, for you and your co-workers to discuss sex at the office IS being "unfaithful" -- to your boss!