DEAR ABBY: I love my fiance. We're supposed to be married soon. I can envision myself with him in the future, but I have never really been out on my own to experience life.
I think I may be bisexual. I have been attracted to a woman at work for about a month now, and I can't get her off my mind. I do want to be with my fiance -- just not right now. But if I tell him I want a break to explore who I am, I'm afraid I'll lose him forever. Please help. -- LONGING FOR SPACE
DEAR LONGING: You may love your fiance, but you are not ready to make a lifetime commitment to one person right now -- male or female. To do otherwise would be unfair to both of you.
The time has come to level with your fiance. It may -- or may not -- spell the end of the relationship, but it could also be the beginning of something more important: getting to know yourself.
Under no circumstances should you take a vow "to forsake all others" until you're absolutely sure you're able to follow through.