DEAR ABBY: Ever since my best friend, "Wendy," turned 40, she has gone bonkers. Don't get me wrong, some of the craziness is good. We're both starting to lose weight. Wendy also went back to school and seemed to be happy with husband No. 3.
What has me concerned is that Wendy appears to have developed an eating disorder because she's so determined to be the same size as her 21-year-old daughter. She has also become obsessed with an 18-year-old boy, which could end her marriage.
I love Wendy, but when I try to talk to her, she calls me "judgmental" and "holier than thou." Is there anything I can do to help my friend? -- MIDLIFE CRISIS
DEAR M.C.: You may love Wendy, but unless the woman is willing to face up to the fact that she has a problem, there is nothing anyone can do to "help" her. She may be terrified of growing old, not as happy as you thought with husband No. 3, or competing with her daughter. Be supportive, and recommend that she make an appointment with her doctor or a psychologist when the time comes. But until she's ready to listen, she will continue to tune you out.
P.S. I don't know what happened to her first two marriages, but it appears Wendy may be someone who is unable to learn from past mistakes.