DEAR ABBY: I have heard advice given to childhood abuse survivors that it is all right to avoid their abusers, even when the abuser is a parent.
My situation is unique. I was emotionally abused by both of my parents for years. A couple of times when I was young, my mother attempted suicide (to get attention) and blamed her attempts on me. I will never forget the time she told me, "I tried to kill myself because you are such a horrible daughter."
I am still in my mother's life. (I am 47.) I do not wish to see her very much, but I feel responsible for her. I would prefer never to see her again because of all the years of abuse, guilt and inappropriateness she heaped on me. Is this possible?
I have had therapy and have come to terms with my past. I guess I am looking for "permission" not to see her. Thank you in advance. -- CHRIS IN NAPA, CALIF.
DEAR CHRIS: You're welcome. You not only have my permission, you have my blessing.