DEAR ABBY: I am being married in a small outdoor chapel in the hills in late July. Because of the risk of forest fires, no smoking is allowed on the grounds at all. (The guests must smoke inside their cars.)
Because quite a few of the guests are longtime smokers, I feel the need to address this issue with them. What would be the most polite way without upsetting anyone? -- WORRIED IN SIMI VALLEY, CALIF.
DEAR WORRIED: I assume you and your fiance are on speaking terms with everyone you're inviting to the wedding. You should deal with this by talking to them directly. If they are so badly addicted to tobacco that they can't forgo smoking outdoors in a fire area in the middle of summer, they should not attend the ceremony. All your lives could depend on it.