DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 10 years to a man who just doesn't take work seriously. It seems he'd rather that I work than he. He has been on workers' comp twice and just got off again after three years. He works when he wants, just enough to get by -- pretty much burdening me with the bills.
I have an opportunity to board where I work this year. It is quite a ways away, and the season lasts six months. My husband threatens to kick me out if I do. To be honest, I think he just wants me here to pay the bills.
Oh, and he abuses me, too, so I feel leaving would be good for me all the way around. Please tell me what you think. -- GLAD FOR A WAY OUT IN NEW YORK
DEAR GLAD: Your husband isn't going to "throw you out" -- you should be so lucky! Take the job and, while you're apart, file for divorce. Ten years of abuse is enough.