DEAR ABBY: Regarding your reply to the "Confused Bride" who asked if she is obligated to invite her co-workers to her wedding if they gave her a wedding shower at the office, I disagree with your advice. You told her that if co-workers throw a bridal shower, "good manners" dictate they be invited to the wedding.
Abby, at my office we have many wedding showers, and almost all are impromptu affairs a week or two prior to the wedding. How could any bride invite the 20 or so people -- along with guests -- at such a late date? By then all of the final plans have been made. Also, some of the showers at my company are quite large. Not everyone who attends is a close friend of the bride (or groom). Some attend just to sample the cake. -- LESLIE A., MORRISTOWN, N.J.
DEAR LESLIE A.: Your letter is one of many I received from readers who vehemently disagreed with my answer. This should teach me never to disagree with Emily Post -- an important lesson. My advice was well meant, but impractical, so I take it back. Sorry, folks.