DEAR ABBY: I have been married nine years. "Marianne" and I have two wonderful boys and a terrific relationship -- except for one thing, lousy sex. In therapy, Marianne has confessed to me that she is not turned on by me and that there is nothing I can do to change it -- I am just "not her type." (I am an attractive man, but she married me for my personality.) Needless to say, I am very hurt.
Before her confession, I thought Marianne was just not very sexual. Now it turns out that she is, just not with me. What do I do? -- CRUSHED IN CEDAR FALLS, IOWA
DEAR CRUSHED: It appears that your terrific relationship is based more on a platonic attraction than a physical one as far as your wife is concerned. If that's enough for you, accept the status quo. If it's not, however, an amicable divorce might make the both of you happier.