DEAR ABBY: My husband and I moved into our new apartment about two months ago. Our only shared wall is the bedroom wall, and we hear a lot more than we care to.
I haven't met my new neighbors yet, so what's the best way to handle this? Should we try to just ignore it? Should I leave an anonymous note? Or should we knock on their door, introduce ourselves and kindly ask them to be more discreet? -- TRYING TO SHUT MY EARS, GRAND ISLAND, N.Y.
DEAR TRYING TO SHUT MY EARS: There are several ways to handle it, but it should not be done anonymously.
1. Write your neighbors a short note, explaining that you are the new neighbors and feel you are learning more about them than is appropriate, and asking them to lower the volume (or the temperature).
2. Clip this column, and include it with a short note saying that although many renters share this problem, it also applies to them.
3. Tape-record them and leave them a copy -- explaining that you are the new next-door neighbors.