DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 30 years. Over the last couple of years, she has been going to weddings, etc. by herself, vs. our going as a couple as before. Her excuse is that they are "her" friends, and only she was invited.
I think this is unusual, and it seems like they are occasions when couples should attend. Am I wrong in feeling this way? -- LEFT OUT IN CINCINNATI
DEAR LEFT OUT: Good manners require that when a married person is invited to a wedding, the spouse be included. The same applies to couples parties. If the "etc." you referred to in your letter is a get-together for women only, that may be the reason you were excluded. However, because there could be other reasons why this is happening, this is a subject about which you and your wife are overdue for a heart-to-heart chat.