DEAR ABBY: I have struggled with my weight ever since the death of my child several years ago. This year for Christmas, a family member -- who despises me -- drew my name. Her gift to me was a glass pie dish containing cookie-making ingredients, plus a pastry cutter and two basting brushes.
She knows I always send thank-you cards. What kind of thank-you should I send her? She reads your column. Maybe I can just send her your reply? -- STUMPED IN WEST RICHLAND, WASH.
DEAR STUMPED: Do not clip and send the woman my reply. That would be bad manners. Instead, copy it on stationery in your own handwriting. Here's what to tell her:
"How kind of you to remember me with the goodie-fixings. I have always felt that the thought and planning that go into selecting a gift are what makes it -- and the sender -- so special. Your generosity will not soon be forgotten!"
I think that will express what you would like to say in a way that will leave you above reproach.