DEAR ABBY: I am a 37-year-old woman who's engaged to be married. It will be a first marriage for both of us. I love my fiance, "Gill," very much, but I have a gut feeling something is not right. Since our engagement I am noticing things I either didn't see or ignored before.
Some examples: Gill recently moved back to his home state, so we talk on the phone every other day. When we talk, he has to make whatever we talk about sexual. Not that I have anything against sex -- it just annoys me that Gill can't think beyond his zipper when I'm trying to talk about a movie I just saw.
He also never really has discussed his family or his past. He has met the majority of my family, but I have yet to meet anyone from his.
Gill makes a point of saying, once we are married he firmly believes the man should be "the head of the household, the decision maker." I told him that I don't believe in that "caveman, cavewoman" mentality and for him to get over himself.
Although he has never verbally or physically abused me, I'm getting strange vibes, and I'm ready to call off the engagement. Am I being paranoid or a ... NERVOUS BRIDE-TO-BE?
DEAR NERVOUS: You're not being paranoid. Listen to your intuition. For all of the reasons you have stated, you should not marry this man without extensive premarital counseling.