DEAR ABBY: I invited a neighbor to my son's bar mitzvah. I did not invite their children, who are 8 and 6.
When they RSVP'd, they said that all four of them were attending. What can I do? -- ON THE SPOT IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR ON THE SPOT: You welcome them graciously. I am surprised that you excluded the children in the first place, since a bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah usually includes children, and is not considered an adults-only affair.