DEAR ABBY: How should I respond to my husband who constantly corrects me when I'm talking to friends and relatives? We can be talking about anything -- movies, weather, the day of the week we did something. And, according to him, I am always wrong. (FYI -- I am usually right.)
It's bad enough when he does it at home, but it's humiliating when we're out. I've tried talking to him privately about this, but he becomes defensive. Then I get the silent treatment.
I have reached my limit. Abby, what can I say to him that won't embarrass either of us or put him on the defensive? Any advice will be appreciated. -- ALWAYS WRONG ANYWHERE IN U.S.A.
DEAR ALWAYS WRONG: Loving spouses do not correct each other in public; they do it privately. Since you have spoken to your husband about this and he continues, recognize that he is insecure and trying to make himself look smarter/superior by making you look foolish. Most people recognize this ploy for what it is.
Nothing you can say to him about his behavior will make him less defensive. He's already on the defensive and it has nothing to do with you.
Marriage counseling might help him see how detrimental this is, and improve your level of communication. I wish you luck.