DEAR ABBY: Nine months ago, I went through the painful breakup of a relationship with a man I deeply loved. After months of grieving, I have met someone else. "Grant" and I hit it off on our first date. We have been seeing each other for two months and have a lot in common. He is thoughtful, respectful and attentive, and I think he could be "the one."
My problem: Grant plans to retire from work at the end of January and move out of state. He is having a beautiful home built in a small town in the South and talks about when he goes as though he plans to go alone.
I am afraid of being abandoned and hurt again. I would like to go with him, but I'm afraid if I say it so early in our relationship that I'll scare him off. Please tell me what to do. -- MOVING MADNESS IN MICHIGAN
DEAR MOVING: Eight weeks of dating is too soon to ask a person to state his –- or her -- intentions. Let the relationship play out a while longer. On New Year's Eve, when you are toasting each other, tell him what your wish for 2005 would be, and cross your fingers.