DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my wife, "Selma," for two years. I'm sure we both do things that bother each other, but the one thing she does that gets on my nerves is to open my mail. If the mail is addressed to both of us, then I don't mind.
When I come home from work, I find my personal mail opened, read and scattered on the table. How do I tell her to stop reading my mail? -- NO PRIVACY IN BIRMINGHAM, ALA.
DEAR N.P.: Tell her in plain English that it is an invasion of privacy and you resent it, and that you expect to find the envelopes intact when you get home from work. If she doesn't comply, get a post office box in your name only and have your mail delivered there.