DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband, the father of my children, is very ill. I'd like some advice regarding proper etiquette should something happen to him. I'd like to attend his funeral, and he has never remarried -- so what is my role in all of this? -- NEEDS TO KNOW IN FLORIDA
DEAR NEEDS TO KNOW: Your "role" should be to support your children and offer condolences to his family if he has any. Since you are divorced, you are no longer a part of the family, nor are you considered to be his widow. Dress inconspicuously and take your cues from the grieving family.