DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Sherman," and I sleep together. Recently I have noticed that he constantly moves his legs and feet. He does this even after he falls asleep. I have lost a lot of sleep during the last few weeks because of his constant leg movements.
I approached Sherman this morning and asked him to go to the doctor and get something for this. He became defensive and refused. I told him if he isn't willing to go with me to the doctor, I'd have to sleep in another bed because I need my rest. I'm also afraid Sherman isn't getting the rest he needs, even though he may not realize it.
I feel if my husband respects me and cares about my feelings, he should be willing to go. Who is right? -- SLEEPLESS IN BURLINGTON, WASH.
DEAR SLEEPLESS: You are, of course, and your husband is acting like a baby. Since the symptoms are new, he should be examined by a doctor. Your husband may have a condition known as Restless Legs Syndrome (RLS). (An estimated 10 percent of the population has it, and information about it can be found at the Web site of the National Restless Legs Foundation, www.rls.org.) But first, since the patient who diagnoses himself has a fool for a doctor, make sure he consults a physician.
DEAR ABBY: My husband works at a busy airport for an elevator company. Among his varied duties, he must file a report on all elevator and escalator accidents. A few simple rules would eliminate the vast majority of accidents. It would be a great public service if you would print these safety tips in your column. -- DELIGHT J., WINTERHAVEN, FLA.
DEAR DELIGHT: I'm "delighted" to spread the word.
-- Step on and off elevators and escalators carefully.
-- Do not use your hand to stop an elevator door from closing.
-- If the elevator doors won't open, remain calm, ring the alarm button and wait.
-- Hold the handrails on escalators at all times.
-- Stand facing forward on escalators.
And now I'll add two tips of my own: Do not run "up" the "down" escalators, and if you are wearing long garments, make sure when stepping off that your clothing does not become caught in the mechanism.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter was dating an attorney I'll call Clarence. They supposedly split up a few months ago. Over the last few weeks, correspondence from a local car dealer addressed to Clarence has been sent to my house.
My daughter called me all flustered about a week after the first piece of mail was delivered and asked if "something in his name" had arrived. She then explained that Clarence had bought a car and had it titled to my address "because taxes would be cheaper."
Now I'm getting other mail in his name. Isn't this some sort of invasion of privacy, a form of harassment or fraud? I don't have a lot of respect for this guy. I'm not sure how to handle this situation, nor do I know how to stop what Clarence is doing. -- FRUSTRATED IN MENTOR, OHIO
DEAR FRUSTRATED: What Clarence is doing is called fraud -- and you can stop it by simply writing, "Does not reside at this address" on the envelope and returning it to your postal worker. If that doesn't do the trick, notify the Postal Inspection Service.
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