DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Phil," and I lost a child two years ago on Christmas Eve. Before that Phil was always affectionate. Now he hardly shows his emotions at all, and doesn't tell me he loves me as often as he used to.
I love my husband with all my heart and want things the way they used to be. I think he is still hurting, but he refuses to get help.
What should I do? Please help me. -- LOVING HIM IN TENNESSEE
DEAR LOVING: It's clear that your husband is still grieving and has not been able to move on as quickly as you have. Since he refuses to go to grief counseling, go without him.
It may help you to understand that grief is an individual process, and perhaps it will better enable you to help him through it.
Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss.