DEAR ABBY: For 10 years, "Amy" and I have been best friends. We both graduated from a two-year community college.
Amy landed a great job in a prestigious firm. I couldn't find a job, so I finally accepted an entry-level position. Amy owns a beautiful townhouse. I rent a studio apartment I can barely afford. Amy is thin, beautiful and lucky. I'm chubby, plain and unlucky. Men gravitate to Amy despite how horribly she treats them. I am kind to men; they ignore me.
When Amy and I go out, I am invisible next to her. She's introduced me to men, but they have eyes only for Amy.
I'm happy for my friend, but I'm also jealous. Many times after we go out, I go home and cry my eyes out. Should I stop going out with Amy socially, but at the same time continue to "be there" for her? People are nicer to the beautiful ones. Sign me ... THE INVISIBLE GIRL
DEAR INVISIBLE GIRL: It's true that people who are good-looking have an initial advantage. But an unpleasant personality can quickly overshadow "beauty."
Since you feel you are constantly in Amy's shadow, limit the time you spend with her to one-on-one "girls only" nights out. It may also be time you widen your social circle so the spotlight can shine on you, and you can be appreciated for your special attributes.