DEAR ABBY: My husband died one year ago. I wore a gray outfit to his funeral instead of the traditional one. I have the feeling that some of the people there thought it was strange.
In recent years, I have noticed that some brides have worn a pale pink or an off-white gown, and I have seen bridesmaids wearing black taffeta with red. If this trend is acceptable, was my wearing a gray outfit at my husband's funeral OK? This has bothered me for a year. Please advise. -- WORRIED IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR WORRIED: Subdued colors are proper attire for a funeral; therefore, gray is perfectly acceptable.
If any of the attendees were more preoccupied with what you wore in your time of grief than in paying their respects, they have too much time on their hands. Please do not make their "problems" your own. Let it go.