DEAR ABBY: Last fall, I put a little "I love you" note in my husband, "Barry's," wallet (as I do from time to time), and was horrified to find a perfume-scented love note from one of his female co-workers.
When I confronted Barry, at first he denied the note was for him -- then he eventually came clean. All he'd admit is that he kissed her -- once.
Abby, I know him too well to believe that. When Barry was married to his former wife he had multiple affairs, but since we've been together he claims to be a "changed man." Now I'm not so sure.
We both agreed to work on our relationship. Barry has since left his job and taken another. However, there's still a real distance between us. We no longer share the same bed. I know he's worried that I'm going to kick him out. I'm the primary wage-earner in our family and I know he can't afford to live on his own.
I need guidance. I feel as though our marriage is over. I haven't worn my wedding rings since Barry admitted to "the kiss" with that woman. Am I being too harsh? -- WIFE OF A KISSER IN ABILENE, TEXAS
DEAR WIFE: Perhaps. After all, your husband did change jobs, which would put temptation at a distance.
I'll chant the old mantra: marriage counseling. It will help you both decide if this marriage is worth saving -- and if you can trust him not to fall back into his old habits.