DEAR ABBY: I need your opinion. I'm 40, married 17 years, and have two young children. My husband has never been romantic -- no hugs, kisses, flowers or gifts. Once I asked him to just bring me a flower from our garden. Still nothing. He knows how much a little show of affection would mean to me. We've had many discussions about it, and I always end up in tears.
Well, I've met someone. He gives me hugs and small, thoughtful gifts, and he's willing to sit and talk to me for hours. This man makes me feel special, attractive and happy. I've had opportunities like this before, but I always held back because of my marriage. No more. I'm lonely and need to feel loved as much as I need air. Where do I go from here, Abby? -- CRAVING ATTENTION, NO CITY, NO STATE
DEAR CRAVING: You have a right to be happy, but having an affair is not the way to accomplish it. Stop the affair and offer your husband the option of counseling. If he refuses to go, go without him. Right now you are like a flower in the desert. Counseling will help you to decide rationally if you are better off with or without your spouse.