DEAR ABBY: My sister and I have a dilemma. Our beloved mother passed away three months ago, and both our brothers want Dad to erase her voice from the greeting on his answering machine. The message says, "We can't come to the phone right now, so please leave a message and we'll call you back."
Abby, we love hearing our mother's sweet voice when we call. However, our brothers feel it's "time for a change." Dad seems fine with leaving it as is. Please help settle this dispute. -- TWO DAUGHTERS MISSING MOM IN ILLINOIS
DEAR TWO DAUGHTERS: Please accept my sympathy for your loss. Grief counseling could be helpful for all of you. Your brothers are probably not the only people who find such a greeting to be off-putting. I'm sure family friends are also disconcerted by it. Since it bothers your brothers, perhaps it's time to transfer the message in your mother's voice to tape -- so you, your sister and your father can listen to it when you wish.