DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Hank," and I are in our late 20s and have been married five years. We have two children. On the surface everything is great; however, our marriage is falling apart because of my husband's addiction to pay-per-view pornographic movies. Hank doesn't understand why the $600 he spent on these dirty movies over the past year has affected me. Our sex life has dwindled to almost nothing, which makes me feel inadequate as a wife. We're also trying to save money for a house.
I cringe each month when I open the cable bill -- and each month we have the same discussion that goes nowhere. Tonight I told Hank if he continues his habit it would end our marriage. He said, "Whatever. I'm not having this conversation now." What can I do, Abby? -- HAD IT WITH HANK
DEAR HAD IT: Encourage your husband to accompany you to marriage counseling -- and hope that he will "open up." As things stand, your marriage is dying. He has substituted movies for a real relationship with you. Unless a compromise can be worked out, you will both remain unhappy.