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by Abigail Van Buren

Friend Can't Talk Woman Out of Married Man's Arms

DEAR ABBY: I am a single mother of two boys. My oldest is 21 with a wife and baby. They live here in town. My youngest is a junior in high school and lives with me.

Recently, because he's out of work, I helped my older son by paying his $600 rent. My younger son has a part-time job and should have money of his own, but he usually blows it and never seems to have a dime.

What's bothering me is that neither of my sons did anything for me on Mother's Day. No card, no phone call, no "Happy Mother's Day" -- nothing! I feel angry, hurt and awful. And I don't know what to do with these feelings. What, if anything, should I say to them? -- MISERABLE MOM IN TUCSON

DEAR MISERABLE MOM: Tell your thoughtless, self-centered sons exactly what you have written to me. They need to hear it. Your feelings are valid.