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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman Fears Her Job Depends on Getting Her Bosses Dates

DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old male currently living in a boys' home. I'll be here for the next few months. Here's my problem: I tend to fall in love easily. During the three months I've been here, my girlfriend, "Tracy," wrote me twice a day. I thought for sure we were in love. But I haven't received a letter from her in more than a week!

Her excuse is she's busy with school and a part-time job -- plus, it's track season and she's on the team. I understand all that, but I'm still worried. I told Tracy how I feel but still haven't gotten a letter back. What should I do now? -- CONFUSED TEENAGER IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR CONFUSED TEENAGER: I'm sure it's lonely living in new surroundings. However, it's a mistake to depend solely on one person for your happiness. (It's also a heavy responsibility to lay on another person.)

It's time to find a sport, a hobby or some other interest to fill your time. I am sure you'll hear from your girlfriend eventually, but do not get angry with her or make her feel guilty, or you'll lose her.