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by Abigail Van Buren

Girl's Troubled Past Makes Friend Fear for Her Future

DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I are both 50-plus. We are being married in four months -- the second marriage for both of us. We have maintained separate households and we really need nothing.

How can we send invitations to family and friends and let them know that no household gifts are needed? Please help. -- BRIDE-TO-BE IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR BRIDE-TO-BE: Add the following to your invitation: "No gifts, please. Your presence will be our cherished gift, and we respectfully request no other."