DEAR ABBY: Recently I began a wonderful relationship with "Arnie," the man of my dreams.
My problem is, he is hiding our relationship from certain members of his family. He told his youngest daughter about me, and she likes me so much she calls me Mom.
Arnie and his daughter tell me to remain silent when other family members call on the phone. If one of them comes to the door, they tell me to hide in another room.
Should I be concerned about this? Or should I let Arnie decide when it's time to tell the rest of his family? -- STRESSED-OUT IN LAS VEGAS
DEAR STRESSED-OUT: Something is not kosher here. Could Arnie be ashamed of you? Could he still be married? By all means, you should be concerned. If you continue to tolerate this behavior, you'll have no one to blame but yourself.